Men and Woman opposites or complementary?
We have all heard how God is so cruel because he made men and women almost opposites of each other right?
Let’s tackle that a little today.
When God created man he was sinless and perfect. But he was missing something. God saw that he needed a companion and helper. He took a rib from Adam and formed his perfect companion. At this time and the only time ever were man and woman perfect and truly complementary of each other.
Later when sin entered the arena it took minutes for that bond to fail. Adam immediately plays the first passive male and doesn’t stand up and stop Eve from eating the apple, then actually blames her for it and throws her under the bus to God when asked.
At that time the man/woman relationship takes a dive. Sin having entered into the relationship and tainted everything. Selfishness, pride, ego, arrogance all enter into the relationship now.
My point of this is to show that we as men and women were created to complement each other. Men tend to be strong, determined and focused. Usually logical and natural problem solver, dealing less on emotions and more on logic, with an ability to put things in a box and work in that box alone. Woman as a rule tend to be more emotional and everything thought is tied together, all linked by an unseen connection. Woman are the nurturing type filled with compassion and empathy. (these are big generalities here I know there are exceptions)
On the outside it looks like we couldn’t be more opposite right? Well you would be wrong. Look at how we were created at the beginning. Look if you will at your hands the fingers if touched tip to tip are counter to each other. But if fingers are interlaced they fit perfectly, weaved together tight and fitting very well.
Men and woman are much like this. That was how God created us to be and interact with each other. To compliment and add to each other.
I’m going to say something here that might raise some hairs 🙂 I really feel most men are capable of emotions and even expressing them, but I also know men can separate them. Here is the reason. A woman can say things in an emotional state that might not be something she would want to say if she wasn’t in that state. There are times men do the same in anger but either way things get said and feelings get hurt. I believe men are created to absorb these emotional blows with out it effecting our true feelings for her. God made us this way because he knew we would be working closely with an emotionally focused woman. Most men not all, can literally take a beating from a woman when she is emotional (he may get mad but he will love her still) and not have it effect his love for her. Ladies take a moment to remember an emotional outburst at your husband or boyfriend. If you had made that same outburst at another woman how would it effect the relationship?
Men are made to separate things in their lives. We call it compartmentalization. Women don’t understand this because theirs is usually all connected some how..
If we were able to take out the sin natures we picked up from Adam and Eve, remove the pride, selfishness, arrogance… Etc. . How would we respond to each other as man and woman? We would be like 2 hands holding each other. Tightly interlocked and fitting perfectly together.
So what can you learn from this article today? Strive to remove the pride and areas that make you think you are at opposition with each other. Look through her eyes to see her motives, her heart and her emotions. Looking for your partners perspective is one of the most freeing and liberating thing in a relationship that you can do and when you have two good willed people doing the same thing. Well Gods light shines out from that relationship like few around. We have all see the couple out….. They have it a light a spark a….. Something, something very special. You just know they love each other. They have learned to love selflessly. To see through the junk the other may bring through those selfish times, through the prideful moments he might have, or her emotional outburst. We can see what’s behind them we see the hurt or pain behind it. When we look what’s the cause we keep the love switch turned on.
When we strive for selfless love we find greatness only God can bring. The reason is we can’t do this kind of love on our own. We must have God there giving us the example. We must have him and his son as our example of love each day, to carry us passed hurt feelings and anger from an argument. To keep love at the forefront reaffirming it through those hard times.
I hope I made an impact on how we see the difference of men and women today, we are totally different but in a way that’s like 2 lovers hands, fingers intwined fitting perfectly together.
It is something we must always look to do and strive to either do or make corrections when we fail. Love through it all, never turn that switch off or you threaten to destroy it all. And giving God the proper glory for it.