Love is……

What love is.
What love is.

What is love?

I have written about this before but I believe it needs talked about some more. We have so many misconceptions about what love actually is. Each person has a perception of love and how they see it or receive it. We let our society define what love should look like in the movies. We see sex thrown in our face telling us that is what love is. I will tell you what love is all about in a single word.


Yes that what love is. Love is the constant flow of sacrifice, forgiveness and grace. It isn’t the emotional feel good high we get. That is part of it but love is really shown during the hard times when we might struggle to even like someone.
When you care for someone on a level that is unexplainable and in a respectful and God honoring way, special things happen. We see these elderly couples that have been together for 50+ years and ask how? Most times it’s a hard headed determination to love the other. What does that look like in the real world? When your standing face to face in a relationship?
it’s always remembering who you fell for. Who is this man/woman standing in front of you, what is in his/her heart and what you know as facts in yours. We must rely on the invisible connection to that person to maintain the love we bonded together at the beginning. That invisible connection is God. God is the only one that can give true love in an unconditional, totally sacrificial way. The only reason we can love is because God first loved us. If God isn’t there then we fall back to lust or affection or all the surface things that society sees as love. Do you see the change there? It’s gone from sacrificial and what you can give to what you can get. When love is done with out God it becomes selfish and reaches to suck all it can to fill a gap inside that person. You see people with obvious bad people all the time and they state.. But I love them… No I don’t believe that. That person is filling a gap, a need and they get afraid of being alone because that void is too great.
Love is just like the verse says.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

So I ask you… Are you loving your partner the way you should? Is your pride or ego in the way? What are the barriers you have that are keeping that kind of love away?
The key is trust. And the first part of trust is vulnerability. You must show you trust this person with your very life or in this case you heart. You literally are handing someone a map to the ways to hurt you the most and trusting them not too. So I ask you today. Are you loving as God instructs you to or are you only giving what you think you need to to get by? With God there is no half way. You can not sit on the fence with God because the Devil owns the fence. We are human, we make mistakes, we become selfish at times, we let pride get between us and the one we love. That doesn’t mean it’s over. What it means is you must have a heart to forgive and ask for true forgiveness. Let go of all the things that can get in between you. Defensiveness, the need to be right, a open heart to admit wrong, never pointing fingers of blame, never bringing up old mistakes… Hmm. Kind of sounds like the verse huh? Funny how that works.

I know when I get married again I will do it right. I know I will go into it and literally cut the words divorce out of our book, it is not an option. I want to pass that on to my kids too, that same kind of convection to do it right. To put the effort into and come out with a marriage that honors God. The kind that people notice and usually will ask… “Wow look at them, they have it.” The trick is, the it is found by getting through the hard times. When they had to fight as a team against the things that come at a marriage to break it up. You are a team, always. The “it” people notice is also when God is in the middle because the couple knows they can’t do it on their own, that they need to have God as the glue that holds it all together.

Getting back to basics.

Getting back to basics
Getting back to basics

It’s been a little while since I had what I call an adventure. I am getting ready to do something that I have wanted to for a long time but just have not taken the time to do.
I am going to start doing over night hiking trips in various places in Missouri and Arkansa in hopes of finding some like minded people that would want to go or just taking my dog Elsa and going for 2 or 3 days taking some photos and enjoying the time out unplugged.
I have a ton of vacation time and plan on taking some of it. I have been getting my gear together for the past month or so and I am just about there. It’s funny how you can reduce your needs down to such a small set of things. I have some of the dead rated foods to try out and figure which ones are good or not. I think I have my gear down to about 30-40 pounds worth of stuff and I can tell you I am excited to set off and do this. If I go alone I plan on taking my bible and use that time to get back to some basics. I have had a few people tell me … Oh yeah I would love that.. Then figure out I’m serious about the over night thing and they are out. LOL that’s ok I get it, it isn’t for everyone. I plan on doing some writing while out there and I am really looking forward to seeing some interesting places and photos to go with them. Sometimes we just need to that time alone and think. No distractions no tv screens no plans other than the simple things of surviving and seeing the wonders of the outdoors. Covering 4-6 miles a day and living out like that as simple as I can, I just love the thought of it. I even want to possible go on a yearly longer one somewhere out west or something. To me one of the fun parts is living on so little. Sleeping in a hammock and cover just me off the ground in a sleeping bag. I know many hear that and think I am crazy haha well that’s a different subject entirely but I think there is a lot to be said for simplifying things to help bring some perspective back into your life. Dealing with the issue of simplistic living and not only making it but flourishing while doing it. I can see some week long hikes in my future.

An image of love

The note

What is love? Ask this question to 100 people and you will get 100 different descriptions. That’s one of the reasons love is such a great thing. It defies logic and can overcome just about anything.
An image hit me a few months ago and it has taken a while to really grasp what it was all about. Imagine a classical song writer like Beethoven or Bach. Real masters of the art. As they write they are stuck and can’t seem to find the right note for a certain song. For days and months possibly even years this one note eludes him. Then one day as he is absently playing on the piano. A note so true and pure is struck and it rings throughout his being. It awakens a place in his heart, the tone continues to play a constant ring. It reverberates from his head to his toes. He scrambles to his notes and scribbles the final notes to page. Then he plays the entire song. It’s true beauty is found only in the combination of the song. The beauty of the note is awesome as a single note but when placed with the song and heard in its entirety its beauty truly soars to amazing heights..
Just like when two people truly love one another. It can overcome any sin, it can forgive and gives grace on an unlimited level. The beauty of the note is when each person is playing the note God gave them on their own then he joins them together as one. Love is one of the most searched for things, everyone is looking for their note. For the combination that when joined truly makes beautiful music.