I saw a video today that i shared on my FB page. It was a mirror that interacted with the women standing in front of it. It was a set up for certain woman that stood there but the effect of it all was pretty over powering. It had a slide bar to let each person slide it to how beautiful they felt right then. Almost all were below 40%. To me thats just so sad.
Here is the catch 22 of this whole area of conversation.
We want people to feel confident in their looks no matter their size, or who they are as a person. So on one hand we tell everyone that they shouldn’t try to be in shape that their current size big or little, they should feel comfortable with. If you have read much of my stuff you know that I like fitness stuff, I gain weight, I lose weight, but over all I’m in pretty good shape. I hate this whole area of conversations. The main reason is…. well its uncomfortable and I can end up speaking out of both sides of my mouth here. Mostly because I understand the logic and I understand what is trying to be done BUT!!!! this is a big but. We can never use being confident in ourselves as an excuse to be lazy, as a reason to not be healthy…. BINGO!!! That is the proper word I’m looking for.
Girls Listen to me…….The girls in the magazines don’t even look like they do in the magazines. We are all familiar with photo shop and how it is used in the advertising arena.
This is where I get into uncomfortable ground. I want all woman to be confident in their bodies. To look in the mirror and not pick themselves to death and find every flaw or pore or pimple and not see all the beauty that is there.
I want that more than anything for every woman in the world. I also want everyone to learn to eat right, eat healthy and enjoy a healthy body. Remember the people that have ripped abs and chiseled bodies are not healthy for the most part. Naturally our body needs a certain % of fat and its not 6 pack abs usually. HEALTHY!!! That is the difference. So ladies look in that mirror and look for the good, look for the beauty that is there everyday. Look to your man to show you, he should be telling you if he is a real man, he will always want you to know your beautiful in his eyes and for you to feel beautiful, To know he thinks your beautiful right out of bed with no makeup on is a real thing girls. He isn’t just saying that to make you feel good. He means it.
Understand that confidence in yourself can lead to many greater things that a lack of confidence will hide. If your a God fearing person then I know for a fact that God doesn’t make mistakes. He made you with a purpose and a reason. Finding those should be our life’s goal. Find your passion and share it with others. Our lives are not defined by who we think we are but we sure can be guided by those feelings. When you finally see this and understand that the negative thoughts you carry about yourself and your body imagine, are the very things that feed every excuse and every reason to not try to be better, in all things not just being healthy. There is a trap about being comfortable with yourself. It can lull you into a comfort zone issue if your not careful. I’m all for pushing ourselves in all areas of our lives. Not by huge leaps but small steps here and there to show ourselves that the fears we have inside us are usually just imagined. Don’t let being comfortable be the thing that stops you from getting healthy or starting that dream job or business. Be coincident in who you are and how you look but don’t let that limit what you can be. 🙂